Thanks so much for sharing all that. That is a very well put list of guilty parties! Sounds hard to work through. 20 hours⦠and still.
Iām so sorry. One would imagine that aiming for perfection would increase output not lock you up, right?
I liked your point about taking time away. Tunnel vision is really easy to do and I hadnāt seen it that way. So thanks!
I think that part of perfectionism comes from not believing that you can. Confidence helps with being more freely expressive in your images. If confidence, then, is built on success ā how can you build it if you can never truly feel that you succeeded? No matter how pleasing your piece might look, if you donāt care for it, then you wonāt finish that cycle. That will continue to fuel your feeling of shame and failed attempts. Others enjoying your work will only make so much of an impression on you if youāre still uncertain.
I wonder if, part of not being able finish the cycle, is simply because of uncertainty - even in what youāre aiming for, right? Or that you did.
This might sound like a strange question, but I think youāll find it interesting. Do you spend much time using your imagination creatively? Just on itās own. Not just in formulating an image. Particularly the process of creating a story.
Reason I ask is this: I used to make up stories a lot when I was a kid. Iād really enjoy the process of visualizing and using my imagination. I would spend a lot of free moments - in between work, riding in the car, drifting off to sleep ā ādaydreamingā and working on my stories. Feeling the settings, designing the characters. I really got into it. They could get complex and deep. Iād share them with my siblings. It was pretty cool.
Life got insanely busy and I didnāt take time for story writing anymore. I kind of shied away from it. More pressing things to do. I didnāt think much of it.
When I started learning digital art, I locked up a lot. I could waste a lot of time reworking an image. Especially the beginning stages. Figured it was just transitioning to digital. Or actually learning how to draw (I started taking lessons). In some ways yes, that was true, but not entirely.
I did a lot of pencil drawing before digital. I actually enjoyed drawing then, although I could fumble and waste a bit of time since I didnāt really know what I was doing (I wasnāt good at the structuring of my images). The time wasted then was not knowing how to draw. But I still enjoyed going back to it.
Drawing now isnāt the same experience. I waste time now, but itās different. I donāt know what Iām going for, even though I know the skill better. Itās rare that Iām not stressed. I lack confidence. Iām aware there are a number of other factors, but I realized, before digital, I was heavily using my imagination due to my stories. When I drew pencil I knew what I was going for and could feel what I wanted to express. More often than not, even if it wasnāt perfect, I was happy. I actually liked what I did.
So, it might seem weird, but I donāt think that itās too far out. Using your imagination forces you to see what youāre looking for first. But, regardless of how vividly you can create the images (my own imagination is rather vague, to be honest), just the process of creating something in your mind forces you to choose and sort out your preferences. Making a subconscious archive within yourself you can go to.
When Iād mull over story ideas, it helped me know better what I liked and what sort of things I enjoyed in my design work. I guess, I knew myself better? Diving into a new image didnāt feel like exhausting guess work. It was much more like feeling around in a drawer for something I couldnāt see but somehow knew I was looking for.
(And no, I do not bring this up because of my initial comment encouraging you to write your mouse story! Seriously. (Althoughā¦
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Sitting down and creatively imagining takes a lot of effort now. Esp since I have fallen out of the habit. (Fortunately, I easily get inspiration listening to music. Thatās just me.) But, when I do make the time, even just 10 min, I do really feel a positive impact. Strangely, even physically.
It takes a lot of thinking, and it slows you down a bit. Forcing you to feel your own thoughts. Like the friction tires have in contact with pavement (otherwise, seriously, I go so fast inside, I feel like Iām hydroplaning
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Anyways, it could easily be particular to me. I know itās not the complete solution. I just mention it in case it might help.
Another thing - I donāt know how much thumbnailing you do, but it might help against falling into more typical/obvious directions. Translating seemly concrete, though abstract, thoughts onto paper is itās own challenge.
First time I was instructed to thumbnail was a weird moment. And not just one thumbnail ā four variations of the theme. The idea of slowing down enough to make multiple iterations of the same image made me physically sick. Why? For starters. But, now it saves me a lot of time.
I was part of a digital āPumpkin Carving Contestā last fall. I wanted to do a pumpkin lantern. Straightforward enough.
There was a lot a math I didnāt realize I needed to do until I went to thumbnail. Just what exactly did a pumpkin lantern look like? In the past, I wouldāve sketched and colored and realized too late my details were not what I wanted. It saved me so much heartache doing it small first and sorting out my thoughts.
I also thumbnailed the colors. Something else I learned. It was strange, I didnāt realize there were so many options for a simple outdoor night scene. 
This was what I finished with. It was close enough to what I had in mind that I could call it done. (Anything different would just be a case of needing to enhance my skills on smaller pieces I donāt care much about.)
I apologize for such an enormous response. Perfectionism is something that hurts me in many different areas of my life. By the sounds of it, might be similar for you. But, in any case, itās caused me a lot of pain and is really crippling. So, I feel what youāre saying and sincerely hope something Iāve shared can help 